Relationship breakdown can be very emotional and stressful – making it particularly difficult to agree on decisions relating to living arrangements, finances, and childcare.
Separating couples mediation can help by offering a framework for separating couples to make informed decisions with the help of a trained professional.
A safe space for decision-making
Mediation provides a safe space for you and your ex-partner to come to an agreement about your children, the family home, finances, and the future. The process ensures that you are both treated equitably and given the equal right to be heard in a safe space and have your wishes discussed and taken into account.
Agreement through mediation
Mediation is different to the adversarial court-based system. With the help of a professional mediator, you and your ex-partner work together collaboratively to make your own decisions about your unique situation and that of your family, rather than having a judge make these important decisions for you.
Through the process of mediation, the separating couples mediator supports you in identifying your and your partner’s particular needs and the needs of your family, and how best to have those needs met. Mediation allows you choice and control. It facilitates you to come to a consensual, informed and fair agreement.
“In five years time you will look back at this time as challenging episode in your live. It will have passed, however painfully, but it will have passed”McAuslan and Nicholson, Living With Separation, 2011
How does couples mediation work?
Mediation is a process, which means there is a structure around how it is delivered to the parties. The issues discussed depend on the needs and wishes of the separating couple.
Issues may include:
- Parenting and communication (and how best to manage the ongoing co-parenting relationship)
- Finances, maintenance, etc.
- The family home and living arrangements/parenting schedule
- Other decisions around children
Over the course of 4 – 6 sessions (it could be more or less depending on the complexity of issues), you and your ex-partner are facilitated to discuss each issue, explore your options, and come to decisions. You are encouraged to seek expert advice in relation to your legal or financial affairs so that you can both make informed decisions and negotiate the best outcomes for both you and your family.